From Struggle to Self-Love: Learning to Love and Care for My Hair

My hair was always something I struggled with and like many others, I fell victim to hair care myths, bad habits, and products that did more harm than good. It wasn’t until I went on a personal journey of discovery that I truly learned how to care for my hair—and more importantly, how to love it.

I want to share that journey with you, not just because it’s part of who I am, but because I know so many people go through similar struggles. Learning to care for your hair isn’t just about finding the right products—it’s about embracing your hair for what it is and giving it the love it deserves.

Realizing the Importance of Moisture

One of the biggest turning points in my journey was understanding the role of moisture in hair care. For so long, I had been using products that stripped my hair of its natural oils, leaving it dry and brittle. I wasn’t hydrating my hair properly, and that was the root of many of my problems.

Once I started focusing on moisturizing my hair—using deep conditioners, leave-in treatments, and hydrating oils—I noticed a huge difference. My hair became softer, more manageable, and less prone to breakage. It was a simple change, but it made all the difference.

Learning What Works for My Hair

As I experimented with different products and routines, I began to realize that there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach to hair care. What works for one person may not work for another. I had to learn what worked for my hair, and that meant paying attention to my hair’s needs rather than just following trends or using whatever product was popular at the time.

For example, I discovered that my hair loves lightweight oils like grapeseed and macadamia oil but doesn’t do well with heavier oils like coconut. I also learned the importance of avoiding sulfates and silicones, which were drying out my hair and causing build-up. It was all about trial and error, but the more I experimented, the more I understood my hair’s unique needs.

Creating My Own Products

At first, it was just a personal project—something to help my dry, frizzy hair feel softer and healthier. I experimented with natural ingredients like avocado butter, aloe vera, and nourishing oils, and after many trials, I found a formula that truly transformed my hair. It was lightweight, hydrating, and gave my hair the moisture it needed without weighing it down.

Creating my own leave-in conditioner was empowering because I finally had something that worked for me. But it was also the culmination of everything I had learned throughout my hair journey. I realized that caring for my hair wasn’t just about using the right products—it was about understanding what my hair needed and giving it the love and attention it deserved.

Embracing My Hair

Perhaps the most important part of my journey was learning to love my hair for what it is. I spent so many years wishing my hair was different—straighter, less frizzy, more manageable—but as I learned how to care for it properly, I started to appreciate its natural beauty.

My hair, once a source of frustration, became something I was proud of. I stopped fighting against my hair and started working with it, embracing its texture and learning how to enhance its natural beauty. It wasn’t always easy, and there were plenty of setbacks along the way, but learning to love my hair was a transformative experience.

Sharing My Journey

Today, I’m proud of how far I’ve come on my hair journey, and I want to share what I’ve learned with others. That’s why I started creating hair care products, like my Divine Feminine leave-in conditioner, and sharing my experiences. I know how frustrating it can be to struggle with your hair, and I want to help others find products and routines that work for them.

Hair care isn’t just about looking good—it’s about feeling good, too. When you learn how to care for your hair properly, you start to feel more confident, more empowered, and more in control of your beauty. It’s a journey that takes time and patience, but it’s worth it in the end.

Final Thoughts

My hair journey has taught me so much—not just about hair care, but about self-acceptance, patience, and perseverance. I’ve learned that taking care of your hair isn’t about following trends or using the most expensive products; it’s about finding what works for you and embracing your hair for what it is.

If you’re struggling with your hair, know that you’re not alone. The road to healthy, beautiful hair is a journey, but with the right care and a little self-love, you’ll get there.